Domestic Violence And Depression

More and more people are reporting incidents of domestic violence to the police every day. If you are a victim of domestic violence you will understand just how terrifying it could be. The question that many individuals ask is what are the reasons of this violence, is the person simply a lunatic or are there other reasons behind it.

According to the most recent reports alcohol has a big part to play in causing cases of domestic violence.  In the instance of a husband hitting his wife when he is drunk, this is normally what can happen.  In order to make this article easier to read let’s call the husband Paul and his wife Mary.   

Paul is a very nice guy when sober.  Mary is greatly in love with him and hopes that they will grow old together.  Paul is a great father to their two children, is helpful around the house and is a really good cook.  The problem happens after he has had quite too much to drink.  Paul now becomes an entirely different person and suddenly starts accusing his wife of having an affair, becomes violent and really argumentative.  Mary, realizing he's drunk attempts to walk away to leave Paul to his bad mood.  However, this only adds to his anger and he starts becoming abusive. 

The next morning Paul can't believe what he did and is full of regret and remorse.  He cannot say sorry enough and asks for Mary's forgiveness.  He promises that it will never happen again and says that he will quit drinking alcohol if that would make his wife happy. 

Mary isn't sure what to do, she would like to forgive and forget but feels that it is very likely that it will occur again in the future if she does.   

In a lot of domestic violence cases people like Mary will forgive their partner or husband many times before ultimately losing patience with them.   

My recommendation for Paul would be to stop drinking alcohol right away.  This appears to be the reason of all of these problems; therefore you have to find another thing to have an interest in. 

Another cause of domestic violence is also known to be depression.  Some people who are commonly very relaxed can become very angry and violent when in a deep state of depression.  They could take their problems and frustrations out on their partner much like in the example mentioned above. 

A few days or weeks later when the person in question is feeling much happier, they will not believe what they have done.   

Whether it is as a result of depression or alcohol, one solution to this domestic violence problem could be to attend some type of anger management program that is for individuals like Paul.  Regardless of what are the causes of domestic violence, it has to be identified quickly and help should be provided as soon as possible in order to stop domestic violence before it turns into something tragic.